The tradition of paying a “bride price” varies widely by culture and is not a universal practice. In many Western cultures, for instance, there is no tradition of paying a bride price.
In some cultures, the bride price, sometimes known as a dowry or bridewealth, is an amount of money or property that the groom or his family pays to the bride’s family before the wedding. This custom is traditionally practiced in parts of Africa, Asia, and Oceania, among other places. It is often viewed as a form of appreciation to the bride’s family for raising her, and it can also serve to reinforce the economic bonds between families.
This practice is less common or has evolved in some places and communities. For example, it may be more symbolic than literal or optional rather than mandatory.
The concept of the bride price has been criticized for potentially reinforcing patriarchal values, as it can sometimes be seen as a transaction where a woman is “purchased.” As a result, some people choose not to follow this tradition even if it is customary in their culture.
As with any cultural tradition, any practices around marriage are consensual and respectful and promote the equality and well-being of all parties involved. These practices adhere to the country’s laws where the marriage occurs.
Whether paying a bride price’s a “must” depends on cultural norms, personal beliefs, and legal regulations. If you’re unsure, discussing with the families involved and possibly a cultural or religious advisor, if applicable, could be helpful.